Who should make a speech?

Speeches and toasts are a traditional part of the reception which symbolise the bond of friendship between all those present. 

They will vary in accordance with the size and degree of formality of the occasion.

The main things to remember when giving a really good speech are to keep it short, try and make it light-hearted and amusing, speak naturally, do not say anything unflattering and keep it succinct.

The traditional order of speeches is as follows.

Toast to the Bride and Groom – normally completed by a father or close relative to the bride and groom.  Guests should be asked to stand for the toast and the bride and groom remain seated.

Response by the Groom – the groom would respond to the toast on behalf of his wife and also propose a toast to the bridesmaids.  The bridesmaids should remain seated during this toast.

Bestman – the bestman responds to the toast on behalf of the bridesmaids and then proposes a toast to the parents of the bride and groom.  He can also mention some anecdotal stories of his relationship with the groom.

Anyone else – but we suggest this be organised in advance.  Providing an ‘open mic’ opportunity is very risky in that it may take up a lot of time that you could better use for dancing and socialising.